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Unresolved Grief can make you Sick

As someone who struggled with complicated grief after the deaths of my husband and son, during a time that was made even more difficult due to several personal medical crises, I want to offer up a word of caution to other grievers who remain in the acute stages of grief long after the death of […]

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A Griever’s Right to Choose Their Path

There is no one path that a griever should walk. There is not even a right path. There is only your path. As a griever, you are already walking a path that you did not ask to be on. The death of your loved one washed away the life path you were walking with them, and […]

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Grief in Western Society: Why we Feel so Alone

Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross said, “It is difficult to accept death in this society because it is unfamiliar. In spite of the fact that it happens all the time, we never see it.” As an ICU nurse, I worked around death a good part of my adult life. I mistakenly thought I understood death, until it […]

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Surviving the Emotional Turmoil of Grief

If someone had told me, 10 years ago, that I would be writing about grief, I wouldn’t have believed them. At the age of 38, after years of struggles, my life had finally fallen into place. I was happy and fulfilled. My life was perfect. But a lot can change in ten years. 2006 is […]

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Conquering the Mountain of Grief

Grief can seem as unconquerable as Mt. Everest. You have no climbing experience. You aren’t sure that you’ll survive the elements. Or, that you have the equipment required to safely climb the mountain. Your very life is at stake. You didn’t set out to conquer mountains. You didn’t ask to be left out in the […]

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Death and Grief are Universal

Death and Grief are Universal. They touch all genders. All races. All religions. They don’t discriminate based on socioeconomic status, or age. Death and grief, do not care if you are a mother, father, spouse, child, sibling or friend. Or that they are taking someone who means the world to you. No one will escape […]

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Recovering our Broken Hearts after the Holidays

We’ve survived the holidays (if you can call walking around, with a still shocked look on our faces, our broken hearts in our hands, surviving). Now we need to turn our energy to the hard work of post-holiday recovery. This holiday was the seventh holiday without my son, who died when he was 20. The […]

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Getting through the Fog of Grief during the Holidays

I have spent nine difficult holidays without my late husband, and seven heartbreaking holidays without my son. The first few holidays after their loss were so painful that I don’t remember much about them, other than I quickly understood that the holidays would never be the same. Holidays became something I dreaded and had to […]

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