Grief can seem as unconquerable as Mt. Everest.
You have no climbing experience.
You aren’t sure that you’ll survive the elements.
Or, that you have the equipment required to safely climb the mountain.
Your very life is at stake.
You didn’t set out to conquer mountains.
You didn’t ask to be left out in the wild, uncontrollable elements of nature. But this is where you find yourself.
Looking up at the formidable mountain, you feel overwhelmed and exhausted.
You feel defeated.
How do you even begin the climb?
You might not feel courageous, but courage is an integral part of your soul.
It is this courage that will keep you moving.
Even though it feels like you’ll never make it to the top, you will.
You don’t have to climb the mountain in one day, one year, or even ten years.
But, you do have to keep moving.
You have to force yourself to take these steps, to climb this mountain, even though right now it might feel impossible.
Remember….courage. It is there, you just have to search for it.
You might feel that you’re alone on your climb, but you’re not.
There are guides who have climbed this mountain before, who can share with you the best way to navigate its challenges.
Take one day at a time. One step at a time.
But, keep taking those steps up that mountain.
Eventually, your perspective on the mountain will start to change, and you’ll see more clearly, realizing that what you thought was Mt. Everest is actually a smaller and more manageable mountain.
You realize that you CAN do this.
You will still have times where the mountain, once again, seems unconquerable, and you may need a day or two to regain your courage. That is ok.
Climbing a mountain and overcoming grief are both processes that take courage, determination and time.
The journey isn’t about forgetting your loved one. That will never happen.
The journey is about honoring the love you shared and finding a way to get to the top of the mountain where you can experience joy in your life again.
You can learn to live again.
Don’t stay stuck half way up the mountain.
Grief is hard work. But, you can make it to the top.
Don’t let grief steal more joy from your life than it already has.
One step at a time.