Grief is not something that goes away one morning, you have to put work into it. In the process of healing, sometimes you might end up being suicidal. Losing a person you love is not easy but accepting they are dead is even harder. The sad fact about death is that it does not prepare you, it just happens promptly. Maybe your loved one had been sick for some time and in your heart you knew they would not survive. But once they die, it hits hard that you forget you saw this day coming. No person is ever prepared for death, it will always catch you unaware leading to emotional breakdown.
Grieving is based on the cause of bereavement and a person’s response to loss. People cope with the loss of a loved one in ways that are far more instinctual and subconscious. It means a person acts on what the mind says in its conscious state. This is common, especially in the early stages of dealing with grief. When deeply sad thoughts and emotions occur rapidly, the human body responds to the threat by trying to cope. The human mind works in a way that it tries to protect a person from being overwhelmed by emotions and feeling overloaded. In the process of this automatic coping, one creates a defense mechanism like denial or avoidance.
Automatic defense mechanisms are considered normal because that is how the human body responds to a threatening situation. But through these mechanisms, the bereaved cannot make a decision based on logic, rather emotions leading to prolonged grief. Some grief responses like isolation and constant worry make the situation worse than it is. Grief does not require instinctive responses because this is just an escape plan for your pain, for just some time before you go back to grieving.
Managing grief can be difficult, therefore it is vital to look into the warning symptoms indicating a struggle to deal with grief. One of the extreme signs is suicidal thoughts due to chronic depression. A medical study shows that over fifteen million Americans are depressed annually and this requires medical assistance. The warning signs are classified into two, physical and emotional symptoms. The emotional features displayed by a person undergoing grief are increased irritability, inability to experience joy, detachment or isolation from people, numbness, preoccupation with loss and bitterness. Psychological research suggests that these emotional symptoms are normal after a traumatic event but can indicate a more serious disorder if they last.
Physical symptoms are signs that have real effects on the body. The University of Massachusetts came up with the physical symptoms of grief which are, sore muscles, headaches, digestive problems, chest pain and general body fatigue. These features are not entirely centered around grief, they can be normal, if severe you should seek medical help. There are short-term and long-term effects that could result from grieving by affected individuals. Short-term effects include lack of the energy to socialize or attend social gatherings and the inability to attend work or school. Long-term effects depend on the type of loss you are going through. If left untreated, grief can lead to either chronic mental or physical health problems.
There are three types of grief disorders according to extensive medical research. Prolonged grief, according to the Oncology Nursing Forum, is definitely inherited. The study shows that women are more likely to suffer from prolonged grief disorder when compared to men. Americans are more prone to the disorder and this disorder is diagnosed approximately five months after a traumatic event. After the Columbia University School of Social Work did its research, the findings suggested that over ten percent of believed people develop complicated grief.
Complicated grief disorder is a condition where the grieving process does not seem to get better since the day of the actual event. In grief, it is important to move beyond defensive mechanisms because this leads to suffering. Avoiding pain is the core reason for prolonged grief since pain demands to be felt rather than ignored. Avoidance causes an individual to fear emotions and memories of their loved ones. Chronic avoidance can prevent you from having any growth after death or even make you choose negative coping which can result to depression.