Grief is the lack of mental stability as a result of a loss of something. The length of time that grief can take varies depending on what resulted in grief. Grief is taken differently by different individuals depending on its cause. It can be brought about by factors like the loss of a family member, friend, or a divorce. The period taken for grief to be eliminated depends on whether you are doing something about it. Taking measures to help in reducing the pain takes shorter periods to heal than doing nothing at all. To estimate the time needed to overcome grief, several factors have to be considered.
The nature of the loss that brought grief is to be largely considered. Reactions associated with losing a loved one are different from separating with a spouse one. A divorce takes shorter periods for someone to forget and move on with life. When death has occurred, it creates much disturbance in mind. The stability of the mind is largely disturbed meaning it will take longer periods to forget about the grief and move on with normal life. When you see a picture of the dead person, it brings back memories of them while still alive. This makes it more difficult to end grief and accept that life has to move on normally.
A relationship existing between you and the dead can affect the time it will take in mourning. Losing a child or spouse will take more of your time in grieving than a friend or colleague. A strong bond exists between a parent and a child or between a couple. The bond existing between colleagues may be due to work forming a weaker bond. This means that grieving an individual closer to you will take a longer period as compared to a workmate or friend. Taking time to heal from the situation is important because it helps the heart to shed off heavy burdens and the mind to be through with heavy thoughts.
An incident causing death determines the grieve-length to a large extent. For those sick in hospital or at home, there are conditions they may show that indicate possible loss of life coming. It is easy when dealing with that because you may have expected it to happen. When a person having good health conditions dies, the mind might take a long time to grasp that situation and do away with it. Being with a person in the entire situation till dying may take you long to forget as compared to not being close to them. The closeness of your relationship will tell if forgetting about it will be easy, therefore determining the time you will take to do way with grief.
Personal life experiences can determine how long a grief can last until full healing is achieved. Experiencing death for the first time in life can impact the mind greatly. A loss will last in mind for longer periods than when a loss of life has ever been experienced. Having mental disorders affects the perception of death affecting the response given. Depending on how life was lost, it might have occurred too soon to be processed leading to an extended grieving period. An earlier experience of death can also lead to difficulties in digesting the reasons for dying.
Cultural beliefs can affect the length of grief in a family or social setup. Some cultures set up ceremonies for celebrating the life a dead person once had. This might help in relaxing the mind of the deceased leading to a shorter period of pain. It helps in coping up with the current situation and ensuring that the heart is kept at ease. Some cultures prohibit acts of celebrating the dead, making it hard to forget about the situation. It causes the pain to be contained in the heart and mind for a longer time, affecting the period taken to grieve.
Going back to work or doing other things with a fresh mind is important in the work to bring handled. Taking time to heal helps bring the right balance to the body. Doing work with grief might lead to errors coming up that can be avoided. Reacting bitterly is an indication of pain at heart that can be healed by relaxing for a little while.